Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Is Being Friendly A Skill You Can Learn?

     As I teach classes at Climer School of Real Estate, I notice a big difference between the friendliness of people.  Some people are very friendly and other people act like they don't want a friend. 

     I believe this is mostly a lack of skill.  Some people seem to know to turn to the stranger next to them and introduce themselves.  Other people don't seem to understand that introducing yourself to a stranger is a good thing.  I believe that this is a skill a person can learn if they want to. 

     Being friendly has drawbacks.  Sometimes the person next to you does not want to be friendly back.  So what?  Who cares?  There is no embarrassment there. 

     Be friendly.  Say hello.  Ninety per cent of the time, the person next to you DOES want to be friendly.  They just don't want to be the one to start.  It is scary. 

     What is the worst that can happen?  What is the best that can happen?  The worst thing that can happen is your friendliness is not appreciated and reciprocated.  That is a slight rejection.  So what?  It is not going to kill you. 

     The best thing that can happen is you make a new friend.  You and the person next to you may end up eating lunch together and all the other things that friends do. 

     Start practicing being friendly.  It is all upside and no downside. 


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